How Can A Relationship Grow And Mature As A Lifelong Commitment?

How Can A Relationship Grow And Mature As A Lifelong Commitment?

We all dream to have the perfectly nurtured and loving relationship. But many of us can actually honestly say that they are truly self-sufficient in their love. A good relationship is not one that just lasts but one that coexists with self respect, individuality and the need to grow. An individual in a relationship shouldn’t be a repository of one’s own need and desires; in fact both the people involved should be totally committed to their relationship. They must be ready to take responsibility for themselves as well as the relationship. Many eminent marriage counselors and psychologists suggest on the need for individual space in a relationship.

So how can a relationship grow and mature as a lifelong commitment?

• Learn to love yourself more. Give yourself credit and develop a strong self-esteem. Avoid convincing your partner how deeply you love him/her. This will relax your love defenses and enable you to give yourself totally to the relationship.
• Have faith in your partner and do not question his love and affection.
• Stay away from conflicts and drop the ego which governs the “I” factor.
• Avoid using the relationship to reach your goals and aspirations.
• Allow your partner to develop and be an individual. Don’t bind him with too many do’s and don’ts of the relationship.
• When there is a conflict, take a step back and rationalize your position. Don’t always go pointing fingers.
• Listen to one another.
• Communication is crucial in any relationship. So keep the lines open and friendly.
• Grow and let grow.