8 Signs of A Troubled Relationship

1) Go with your instincts: You may have shared a good chemistry with your boyfriend but lately find that love and attraction is fading away. Discuss it with him; find out what is not going right. It is best to identify and clarify expectations.
2) Indifference can act as slow poison to your relationship. If you don’t find your guy interested in you anymore, making excuses to go out or watches television instead of a romantic meal at home, then your radar should be blinking.
3) When your partner makes excuses to be intimate and ignores your flirtatious behavior, it is clear that he is not interested in this relationship.
4) Abusive relationship should not be tolerated. Walk out the instant he raises his hands toward you. A man, who doesn’t respect you, definitely doesn’t deserve you.
5) When frequent simple arguments become full blown fights for no apparent reason, note that he is finding a way out of this relationship. He will blame you as being hot headed with an attitude problem when he decides to walk out.
6) The man who used to surprise you with sweet phone calls or stopped by after work suddenly decides to put you on mute mode. Then you know that something is wrong. Being busy at work is understandable but avoiding calls or catching up on weekends is surely his way of brushing you off.
7) Some partners are very controlling. They always want things their way and if it isn’t then they sulk or show a strong dislike. If everything has to revolve around what he or she wants then you are stuck with a very self–centered partner. Think again, if you will be happy with such a person.
8 ) The age old way of getting rid of a partner is by constantly finding faults and criticizing them. Never let such people get to you or break your self confidence. Reason with them but if it still doesn’t work, it is time you move on to a person who appreciates the way you are.

5 Tips To Fire Up Your Romance And Score High On The Love-Meter

Relationships are like tender plants. Ignore them, they will wilt, if you water them too much, they will die. If you don’t watch over them carefully, they get surrounded with weeds. But giving the plants your love, nurture and care in sufficient amounts gives you healthy, blooming flowers.
Here are some tips to spark up your romance once again:
1) Simple Gestures: Sometimes a warm cuddle, a soft touch on the cheek makes a whole lot of difference. You can take a walk holding hands or put your arms around her shoulders and watch a movie together. These simple gestures melt her heart.
2) Happy Smiles: A smile can change any mood. Even if you have had an argument, your cheerful smile will force her to smile in return and then all is forgiven.
3) Right Words: Saying the right words makes an impact. You could be flirting with her and she would enjoy it because you have timed your words right with the occasion.
4) Stop Comparing: The grass is always greener on the other side. If you have decided which side of the grass you want, then learn to appreciate what you have. Constant comparison will only hurt her feelings. Taking the relationship for granted is another turn off so go out of your way to show how much you value her in your life.
5) Good Old Times: Reminiscing the first time you met and the first time you went on a date, brings a lot of fond memories back. You will remember the old feelings of love and tenderness together. This acts as a catalyst for a great relationship for the future.

Doing the things that you both enjoy, going to the places you like and eating your favorite cuisine brings back the compatibility. So make time for the one you cherish because sometimes life doesn’t always give you a second chance.

How To Manage A Blind Date?

Do your friends have a way of setting you up on a blind date? Well, I am sure they mean well. But they only reveal that he is a looker or she is a gorgeous bombshell? Don’t be alarmed. Here are few tips to keep you calm and talking smoothly through the whole evening.

1) Keep an open mind. Don’t form a mental image or have high expectations based on your friends enthusiasm.
2) Avoid spending too much time explaining about yourself.
3) Show a softer side of your personality.
4) Be a good listener.
5) Show an interest in his/her career by asking some simple questions.
6) Avoid nodding your head too much. Instead make eye contact.
7) Keep the conversation light.
8) Avoid revealing your innermost secrets to a total stranger.
9) Avoid laughing boisterously even if his/her jokes are truly funny.
10) If you are really shy, then role play with a friend to boost your confidence.

Learn To Get Over Your Ex

Your Ex is your past. Stop dwelling over him/her and learn to live in the present. It may not be easy for all but there is always some support and pointers which will help you see things clearer.

1) It is really over. So don’t hang around him/her. Don’t jump to answer his/her email, phone calls or even visiting the places where you once spent time together.

2) There is nothing left to talk and discuss when the final separation has happened. Don’t beg or cry or make blank phone calls. Even at desperate moments, if you can talk your way back into his/her arms, it is only a temporary reprieve. She/He already knows you want her back and he/she doesn’t care. Take that as a sign.

3) Streamline your thought and emotions. Focus on the heart and negative, weepy feelings on paper. Express yourself completely and then destroy the letter. Don’t send it to your Ex. You may never know that your Ex may actually find it funny seeing your pathetic state and discuss it with other friends.

4) Find new places to hangout. Don’t meet your Ex’s friends. If your friends still want to keep in touch with your Ex, then it is best that you avoid them atleast for a while. A true friend will understand what you are going through and leave the friendship of your Ex. In these trying times, you will know exactly how true and genuine friends around you are.

5) Throw away; discard the gifts and souvenirs that your ex had given you. Keeping them around will only make things worse.

With time you will slowly understand and then the healing will begin. Life doesn’t remain the same for everyone so good times will roll in again. Just don’t lose hope.

How Can A Relationship Grow And Mature As A Lifelong Commitment?

How Can A Relationship Grow And Mature As A Lifelong Commitment?

We all dream to have the perfectly nurtured and loving relationship. But many of us can actually honestly say that they are truly self-sufficient in their love. A good relationship is not one that just lasts but one that coexists with self respect, individuality and the need to grow. An individual in a relationship shouldn’t be a repository of one’s own need and desires; in fact both the people involved should be totally committed to their relationship. They must be ready to take responsibility for themselves as well as the relationship. Many eminent marriage counselors and psychologists suggest on the need for individual space in a relationship.

So how can a relationship grow and mature as a lifelong commitment?

• Learn to love yourself more. Give yourself credit and develop a strong self-esteem. Avoid convincing your partner how deeply you love him/her. This will relax your love defenses and enable you to give yourself totally to the relationship.
• Have faith in your partner and do not question his love and affection.
• Stay away from conflicts and drop the ego which governs the “I” factor.
• Avoid using the relationship to reach your goals and aspirations.
• Allow your partner to develop and be an individual. Don’t bind him with too many do’s and don’ts of the relationship.
• When there is a conflict, take a step back and rationalize your position. Don’t always go pointing fingers.
• Listen to one another.
• Communication is crucial in any relationship. So keep the lines open and friendly.
• Grow and let grow.
  

Love

Very often when we meet someone, he or she belongs to someone else. It's funny how we set qualifications for the right person to love, while at the back of our minds we know that the person we truly love will always be an exception. There would come a time when we have to stop loving someone not because that person started hating us or something, but because we found out that they'd be happier if we let them go. You will know when you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy even if their happiness means you are not a part of it. If someone comes into your life and becomes a part of you but for some reasons he or she couldn't stay, don't cry too much... just be glad that your paths crossed and somehow he or she made you happy for a while. There are some things that we never want to let go of... people we never want to leave behind; but keep in mind that letting go is not the end of the world, but rather, it is the beginning of a new life. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want him or her to, doesn't mean he or she doesn't love you will all he or she has. Remember that the best relationship is when your love for each other is greater than your need for each other. "I dropped a tear in the ocean... and the day I find it would be the day I'll stop loving you." Do you have someone to say that to? You'll know that you miss someone very much when every time you think of that person, your heart breaks into a million pieces and just a quick "Hello" from that person can bring the broken pieces back together. When you love someone, draw a circle around their name instead of a heart because hearts can be broken but circles never end. Just a thought: what would you do if the only person who could make you stop crying is the person who makes you cry?. "Every step I took since the moment I could walk was a step toward finding you." You don't want to let go; but it's even more painful to ask someone to stay if you can never make the relationship work out the way it should be. LOVE? It's kind of complicated, but I'll tell you this. The second you're willing to make yourself miserable to make someone else happy, that's love. If I had the letters "HRT", I can add "EA" to get "HEART" or a "U" and get "HURT". But I'd rather choose "U" and get "HURT" than have a "HEART" without "U". Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that he or she will love you back. Don't expect love in return, wait for it to grow in his or her heart. If it doesn't, be contented it grew in yours. It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to fall in love with someone. But it takes a lifetime to really forget someone you have grown to love.

bOreD~ (29/07/08)

What a Boring Day tOday.. Haha...

Me, Wilson, and Derrick gO Annie's hOuse kacao kacao... Haha.. =p

Then after that we go to eat KFC at 7th mile** hehe~ Then after eating, we send Annie home and we go back home too.. Tonite around 9.50pm we go Jalan Song 报道。。哈哈。。

很闷啊，读书又累，放假又闷。不知道要做设么好~古晋节要开了，要换地方报道了。哈哈！

dON'T KNOW the rESulT will Out lOh.. Scared, woRRieD, and ExciTed.. Haha..

Ermmm... I think thats all what i wana say.. gOodbye..